Here’s what I know…..
It’s hard to be honest with yourself sometimes. Hard to be honest and admit that you need support or you need help.
A few years ago, I decided that I’d done as much as I could do on my own to manage my anxiety. I’d definitely made strides, but didn’t know what else to do or how else to help myself. I couldn’t really talk about it in detail with the people I cared about because, unless you have anxiety or depression, it’s hard to understand.
In my experience, I found it made people uncomfortable to talk about it. I also felt like it put a lot of pressure on my relationships to expect them to be my therapists, it was unfair to literally dump all my “stuff” on them. I knew I could talk about it with my boyfriend (who is now my husband) but he’s a problem solver and wanted to fix everything. He felt helpless at times when I would come home from work, hide under the covers and cry. I felt like there was no solution at times, especially when there were situations that were beyond my control. I mean, how do you solve your family members getting sick or your loved ones dying? (Especially when it happens all at once). What I realized during this difficult time was that there is always going to be things in life I can’t “solve”, that’s inevitable, but what I can fix, is the way I handle these situations and how I react in these situations.
So I decided to go to therapy, and I started to talk. At first it was VERY
emotional and I’d cry the entire hour. Mostly, because I think it was a release but also because I was so uncomfortable talking about how I was feeling and what I was struggling with.
We are taught to hide our weaknesses. Society and our culture teaches us to appear “strong”, and to look like we have it all together even if we feel like things are crumbling, don’t let the cracks show and don’t be honest about your feelings. So giving myself permission to open up and be “weak” was really hard.
I realize now obviously; it wasn’t “weak” – it was the strongest thing I’ve ever done.
It takes a lot to admit to yourself that you have an issue you can’t solve on your own, a lot to admit to your loved ones that you need help, a lot to open up, be vulnerable and talk about it.
But it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done and it lifted a huge weight off my shoulders I didn’t even realize was there.
Just being honest about my anxiety and depression with myself and others, it no longer felt like a secret I had to hide. It opened up my life and the possibilities within it. That is not to say I still don’t struggle at times, but I’m ok with that because….everyone does….the difference is, I’m ok admitting that and I now have the tools, and know how to ask for help and where to get it.
I’m sharing this because I want other women to know it’s ok to talk about it. Maybe this post will make some people uncomfortable, but that’s ok, the more people talk about this stuff, the less uncomfortable people/ society will be with it.
This is why I’m so passionate about helping other women overcome anxiety, negative thinking and self sabotage. Even when you are surrounded by love, you can still feel alone. I get that and I don’t want anyone else to feel like that.
I feel it’s really important for women that are struggling with anxiety to have a judgment-free zone like this: Healthy Habits, Healthy Life . A place you can go if you are tired of not being able to get out of bed in the morning, if you come home from work and want to hide under the covers, if you want to put a stop once and for all to the racing thoughts that for far too long have controlled you, if you feel like you have to pretend to be happy so you seem normal to the people that care about you.
Everyone needs a space where you can feel supported, understood and like you have a place to go to talk about what you’re going through. A space that will help you regain your hold on life, uncover how you get to decide how you feel, reclaim your energy, develop positive thinking, reclaim your happiness, and feel like your truest self. If you’re looking for a space like that, come join us HERE .
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Hi! I’m a Heidi, I’m a wellness coach, mindset shifter, true self seeker, and Nutritionist.
I help women overcome anxiety, negative thinking, and self sabotage so they can stop the worrying thoughts that for far too long have controlled their life. So they can get back to “happy”, so they can lead a life full of positivity, energy and fulfillment, and as their truest self!